On February 15th, 2009 Québec City Police Department has unveiled a video in the hope of generating new clues in the investigation to find Marilyn Bergeron, missing since February 17, 2008.
The Second Time
I hung up and told myself that finally someone was going to look for her.Then, I called the shelter.I was told they “may receive a homeless woman at no cost but only for a few weeks.”I added: “I think this young woman is a drug addict. Can you help?”With some restraint, they said, “Yes, but our means are limited. We are working with a detox center.”A new resource. I asked: “Do you have the phone number for the detox center?”
I was told rather curtly: “It is in the yellow pages.”
It’s true, after all I could also search for the phone number…
I found the detox center on the internet. I spoke to a very nice person who explained: “We accept most cases, except those that are too heavy.”
I said: “Can you please elaborate? ”
The list was relatively simple: “People who inject intravenous drugs, those who have already stayed with us and showed behavioral problems such as violence. Things like this… ”
I asked, “What is the available resource for the serious cases?”
“The hospital.”
Ah yes, the one who sends people away in the storms.
She added quickly: “You can not force anyone into treatment.”
Once I took a course with a charity organization that helps young homeless people. Their code of conduct was similar:
“We’re not here to SAVE them. We are here to meet their needs.” The person proudly claimed that she let a young woman give birth on a beach, but gave her blankets.
Really? Is this truly enough to sound happy?
I know we cannot save the whole world, but perhaps we should review our approaches?
To what extent would a homeless person, often intoxicated, make an informed decision on her own fate when she is begging, forced into prostitution, fighting, or fasting, just to survive?
And how can we trust those who enforce internment or make mandatory observation decisions when they let anyone walk in the storm?
I am starting to think that those who say “it’s not my decision” ultimately are causing this unhealthy loop where nobody can get out of anything because no one feels responsible.
I don’t know if this young woman who looks like Marilyn will decide to seek help. Whether she will accept the coffee from the charity organization. If she will consider taking a good look at the brochure or not.
I have offered financial support for her to say “I don’t want it” rather than “I can’t have it”. Will she be offered anything at all?
For a Missing Person Unit in the Province of Québec
This type of Special Unit exists in other Canadian provinces such as Ontario and British-Columbia. It helps solve more cases of missing children and adults and certainly helps with coordinating searches over a wide area. I sincerely believe that a provincial expertise would provide better outcomes in the search for missing loved ones, especially in the precious first days of the investigation of a disappearance. Nowadays, you cannot limit the search for a missing person to a single village or a single city. And you certainly cannot afford to build fences around jurisdictions when every minute counts.
I also want to mention again that there are currently more than 600 unidentified bodies in Canada, spread in various mortuaries in the country. These 600 people may be missing loved ones who have been sought by their families for months. Or even years. Even if my family continues to believe that we will find Marilyn alive, I would like to know if she died. So I find it particularly appalling that there is still no national database for missing persons and unidentified bodies. Should families of missing persons build one? Is it up to us to create a Missing Person Unit as it exists in other provinces and countries?
If we had a special unit for disappearances in Québec, perhaps we would know a little more history behind the faces of these children, these young adults, elderly adults, or those who have vanished without a trace. Perhaps we might well find them?
Some unresolved cases of missing people in the Province of Québec…
Brenda Duperron, 17 years old, missing since March 9th, 2012. (Montréal City)
Maisy Odjick, now 22 years old, missing since September 6th, 2008. (Kitigan Zibi Community)
Diego Königsthal, 1 year old when he went missing on December 5th, 2007. (Montréal City)
Odette Lemieux, 60 years old, missing since the beginning of January 2012. (Québec City)
Laura Jame May, 17 years old, missing since October 19th, 2001. (Montréal City)
Antonio El-Asmar, 5 years old when he went missing on January 11th, 2001. (Montréal City)
Diogo Santos, 31 years old, missing since October 20th, 2011. (Montréal City)
Alexandra Ducharme Bibeau, 14 years old, missing since March 1st, 2012. (Sherbrooke City)
Gilles Perron, 66 years old, missing since January 13th 2012. (St-Jean-Sur-Richelieu City)
Geneviève Malo, 40 years old, missing since December 15th, 2011. (Saint-Calixte City)
Pierrette Lamy, 72 years old, missing since January 5th, 2012. (Laval City)
Howard Graveline, 75 years old, missing since December 30th, 2011. (Gatineau City)
My sister Marilyn Bergeron, 24 years old when she went missing on February 17th, 2008. (Québec City)
Mbaye Thiaw NDIR, 16 years old, missing since January 20th, 2012. (Québec City)
Michael Montpetit, 17 years old, missing since November 23rd, 2011. (Sherbrooke City)
Maxime Richard, 16 years old, missing since February 28th, 2012. (Longueuil City)
Maxime Pelletier, 21 years old, missing since January 29th, 2012. (City of Québec)
David Fortin, 14 years when he went missing on February 10th, 2009. (Alma City)
Sarah Adnan Hashim Siraj, 16 years old, missing since February 20th, 2012. (Montréal City)
Cédrika Provencher, 9 years old when she went missing on July 31st, 2007. (Trois-Rivières City)
Please visit the website Avisderecherche.tv (in French) for a more complete list of unresolved cases of disappearances in the Province of Québec. (There are over two hundred active investigations.)
2011 – Thinking of Marilyn
2011 – Thinking of Marilyn
Over 175 people gathered February 19, 2011 at Hotel Classic in Québec City for the evening entitled ”Think of Marilyn.” The disappearance of Marilyn unfortunately goes back three years and we marked this sad anniversary with the friendship of all of those who still hope to see her again one day.
Marilyn’s passions are both music and writing. They were honored during the evening. The vibrant testimonies of her relatives were combined to the speeches of Enfant-Retour (Pina Arcamone) and AFPAD (Michel Laroche), who joined the magical performance of singer Steve Labrecque, not to mention the superb animation of Stephanie Pelletier and the great design of guitar picks (illustrated above) by Jennylie Harel.
Such good times allowed everyone to come away with a lighter heart and still remain hopeful for the future. Marilyn was present in all minds and hearts of all those who love her, who want to see her again, and who continue to hope with unfailing tenacity.
2011 – Dinner and Tribute to the AFPAD families.
In Spite of Myself
Ladies and gentlemen, good evening.
I am pleased to join you despite the distance for an evening of tribute to families, organized by AFPAD.
My name is Nathalie Bergeron but tonight I am a sister.
I am a sister of a missing person. I am the sister of Marilyn. I’m the one who looks for her. I’m the one that is left behind. I am the other.
In this room tonight, there are more than sisters. There are mothers, fathers, children, brothers, grandparents, or friends.
All of these people are linked to a story of a missing or a murdered person. All of these people are asking for answers, trying to continue to live, or get involved to honor the existence of the other, the existence of people who are still missing or gone forever.
I was told that among you, there are police officers who will hear my testimonial.
I am therefore acknowledging my gratefulness, especially to those who work diligently.
I am showing them respect, especially to those who demonstrate the same to my parents.
I am showing my surprise, especially to those who give us a lead that we did not think of before.
I am the one who questions, examines, claims, and insists. I am the sister of the other.
You are a police officer.
When you chose this path, that of righteousness and order, you did not expect to cross mine.
I am watching you as well. I am reading all your your reports. I fear your silence. I stop when you tell me to move.
It’s because you have not found her.
You receive our testimony,
One delivered in a panic,
What height, what time, please wait for me to explain.
Then we are rushed into your system,
For us the world stops, for you it begins,
You speak of weeks, I am screaming minutes.
Nobody is supposed to ignore my missing person.
I thank those who ignore the simplistic solution,
I thank those who excel in their work and reject the path of least effort,
Such as a suicide theory.
A suicide without a body, without a message, without a reason – quite convenient.
No need to search, no need to perform hard work.
I express my gratitude to those who seek certainty,
Who do not assume,
Those who speak of reasons and facts,
Those who can wisely spare us the false hope or false sorrows of false leads,
These phrases that mark, these phrases that kill.
These phrases that give us doubt greater than that with which we already live.
I do not want to imagine this ending, especially with nothing,
Tell me that you will look for her.
This is an adult, this is a child, he has Alzheimer’s,
This is a loved one, mine, ours, yours,
No matter if he has run away, if she left voluntarily,
If the family is the problem, then go ahead and arrest me,
For now, tell me that you will search for her.
As time passes, the less likely she will be found,
Marilyn is absent,
The clues that remain are worth gold,
We run the streets, we jump overboard,
Even a new disappointment does not diminish our determination,
There is too much pain to stop,
I do not want to know how I feel once immobilized,
Tell me that you will continue to move forward.
Jacques Lacan said,”The law of man is the law of language.”
As a weapon I keep the discourse of hope,
To these other police officers I say change your tune,
And strive for excellence to achieve our target.
A humanitarian goal,
To be reunited as a family.
I was told that among you, there are also politicians who will hear my tirade.
So I talk to them about money,
How much does it cost to keep hope alive?
I plead for their commitment to us,
If they have a party line,
They just cross those of families,
People united in grief and sorrow,
Collateral victims,
But also individuals who are fighting,
Who request more expertise from Québec and Canada.
You are the representatives of the people. The vast majority of the people who vote understand us and support us.
When will we have our special unit?
When will we have our database?
Is it for you that I should vote?
If you are elected,
Now you know,
The real period of question begins.
Ask us,
Maybe you’re the answer,
I give you a few keywords,
Take at least one with you,
Collaboration, police training,
Charter of Rights and Freedoms,
What is happening in the criminal cause or with the missing person case?
And for you Mr. Boisvenu,
Continue.
Thank you to everyone who are supporting us, protecting us,
AFPAD, Missing Children’s Network, police officers, politicians, businessmen, strangers on the street that give us a clue,
A more realistic expectation, perhaps even a victory,
Thank you to all those families who understand without a word,
In the silence, tears, or smiles.
Who help in the dark moments,
By a look, a handshake, an encouraging word,
Thank you to those who continue to work even if their loved one will never come back.
To help us find the missing people.
To help us in our misfortune.
Strongly needed is the Bill of Rights of the Heart.
Politicians turn around and speak the language of your voters.
I know that with us tonight, there are many missing people,
Your brother, your mother, your child,
Maybe even a little of yourself since the tragic moment.
My sister is missing, there is no Marilyn.
She has ceased to be visible,
She has escaped my attention,
She is perhaps lost,
I can no longer share anything with her,
Neither my joys or my stories
Neither my marriage nor the birth of my daughter,
And I wonder what we will do, Mom, Dad, and I
Laurent and Lætitia,
Without her.
In spite of myself,
I am a sister of missing person,
In spite of ourselves,
We are the families of those we lost.
All happy families are the same way,
Families are unhappy each in their own way (Leo Tolstoy)
Thank you for hearing our story again.
And to my sister Marilyn I say, “I love you and see you soon.”
Nathalie Bergeron
November 5, 2011
Marilyn Bergeron’s
Marilyn Bergeron
Sex: Female
Age: 24 years old when she went missing (She is now 28 years old)
Date of birth: 12/21/1983
Race: White
Height: 1 m 70 (5’ 7’’)
Weight: 52 kg (115 lbs)
Hair: Brown
Eyes: Green
Language: French, English, and a bit of Spanish
Tattoo: Pegasus (between her right breast and shoulder)
Date of disappearance: 02/17/2008
Last seen: Marilyn purchased a coffee at Café Dépôt of St-Romuald (Québec, Canada) on February 17th 2008 at 16h03 (4:03 p.m.). It was the last transaction on her credit card.
Last seen wearing: Marilyn was last seen wearing a long black jacket with a fake fur hood, black boots, and grey velvet trousers. She also had a black backpack. She has a credit card but no IDs.
Miscellaneous: Marilyn said she was going for a walk but never came back. Before her move to Québec City on February 16th, she lived in Montréal for three years. Her family fears for her security.
Message for Maxime Richard’s family
Update:
Maxime is unfortunately deceased. All my sincere sympathies to his family that I appreciate immensely. Maxime will remain in your hearts forever. I will not forget him and I think of you.
I recognized the pain and fatigue of his relatives in these dramatic days. I saw the same “missing tracks” sheets on the kitchen table, the friends distributing critical details in the subway, and the journalists launching the appeal to the general public for any information. I also recognized the tenacity of a mother who wants to find her child, the collaboration of strangers or friends publishing a video (Bravo Maxime Messier for the initiative!), and the outstanding support of a generous population united in trying to find a missing loved one.
Age: 16 years old
Size: 1, 85 m. – 6’1 ”
Weight: 64 kg – 141 pounds
Eyes: Pers (some websites also mention blue or green eyes)
Hair: Blond or perhaps dyed black
Maxime Richard speaks French. When he was seen for the last time, he was wearing a black shirt with an AC/DC logo, dark gray jeans, and a black coat. He might be in Austin City or perhaps in Sherbrooke City.
2. Map of College DuRocher (Saint-Lambert)
Video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D9FK6iCDcWw
Sister of Marilyn, missing since February 17th, 2008.